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	This page is under construction. One thing I'd like to make more progress on is adding more stories and examples to this website. So, if through giving TBTS a try or if you've already been doing some form of TBTS and have things to share with me, please get in touch with me by contacting me at teddybear@~~teddybeartalk~~.com.		This page is under construction. One thing I'd like to make more progress on is adding more stories and examples to this website. So, if through giving TBTS a try or if you've already been doing some form of TBTS and have things to share with me, please get in touch with me by contacting me at teddybear@teddybeartalksupport.com.

	One way to give TBTS a try is through the [http://teddybeartalksupport.com/index.php?title=On-call_times "on-call" times] when talkers can call and talk to a teddy bear without having to arrange anything beforehand. If you would like to offer times to be an on-call teddy bear, contact Leeann Fu at teddybear@teddybeartalksupport.com.		One way to give TBTS a try is through the [http://teddybeartalksupport.com/index.php?title=On-call_times "on-call" times] when talkers can call and talk to a teddy bear without having to arrange anything beforehand. If you would like to offer times to be an on-call teddy bear, contact Leeann Fu at teddybear@teddybeartalksupport.com.

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	This page is under construction. One thing I'd like to make more progress on is adding more stories and examples to this website. So, if through giving TBTS a try or if you've already been doing some form of TBTS and have things to share with me, please get in touch with me by contacting me at teddybear@teddybeartalk.com.		This page is under construction. One thing I'd like to make more progress on is adding more stories and examples to this website. So, if through giving TBTS a try or if you've already been doing some form of TBTS and have things to share with me, please get in touch with me by contacting me at teddybear@teddybeartalk.com.

	One way to give TBTS a try is through the [http://teddybeartalksupport.com/index.php?title=On-call_times "on-call" times] when talkers can call and talk to a teddy bear without having to arrange anything beforehand. If you would like to offer times to be an on-call teddy bear, contact Leeann Fu at teddybear@~~teddybeartalk~~.com.		One way to give TBTS a try is through the [http://teddybeartalksupport.com/index.php?title=On-call_times "on-call" times] when talkers can call and talk to a teddy bear without having to arrange anything beforehand. If you would like to offer times to be an on-call teddy bear, contact Leeann Fu at teddybear@teddybeartalksupport.com.
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	==References==		==References==

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	This page is under construction. One thing I'd like to make more progress on is adding more stories and examples to this website. So, if through giving TBTS a try or if you've already been doing some form of TBTS and have things to share with me, please get in touch with me by contacting me at teddybear@~~umich~~.~~edu~~.		This page is under construction. One thing I'd like to make more progress on is adding more stories and examples to this website. So, if through giving TBTS a try or if you've already been doing some form of TBTS and have things to share with me, please get in touch with me by contacting me at teddybear@teddybeartalk.com.

	One way to give TBTS a try is through the [http://teddybeartalksupport.com/index.php?title=On-call_times "on-call" times] when talkers can call and talk to a teddy bear without having to arrange anything beforehand. If you would like to offer times to be an on-call teddy bear, contact Leeann Fu at teddybear@~~umich~~.~~edu~~.		One way to give TBTS a try is through the [http://teddybeartalksupport.com/index.php?title=On-call_times "on-call" times] when talkers can call and talk to a teddy bear without having to arrange anything beforehand. If you would like to offer times to be an on-call teddy bear, contact Leeann Fu at teddybear@teddybeartalk.com.
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	==References==		==References==

Lfu at 18:20, 6 January 2024

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	~~FALL ONLINE WORKSHOPS: Four separate 3-week workshops are~~ being ~~offered via Zoom~~.		This page is similar to the Main page, but it is written with the pronouns being appropriate for a teddy bear being the reader. It also includes some materials that are not on the Main page.
	*One is for everyone and will be held on ~~Sunday, November 26, December 3, 10 from 8 to 9:00 p.m. Eastern~~
	*The other three are for parents: • Monday, October 16, 23, 30 • 7 to 8:00 p.m. Eastern • Sunday, November 5, 12, 19 • 4 to 5:00 p.m. Eastern • Wednesday, November 29, December 6, 13 • 8 to 9:00 p.m. Eastern •
	*[[Workshops\|Click here]] to learn more.
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Lfu: /* Why restricting yourself to be just a silent teddy bear might be easier */

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Why restricting yourself to be just a silent teddy bear might be easier

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	:-Gil Hedley, Integral Anatomy		:-Gil Hedley, Integral Anatomy

	Many people will start off having every intention of doing more listening only to find themselves talking a lot, despite not wanting to. What can help is to take willpower and social dynamics out of the picture. Instead of relying on ~~discipline~~ to try to do more listening ~~in ordinary circumstances~~, ~~with~~ Teddy Bear Talk Support ~~we're changing the circumstances by~~ replacing discipline with structure. Because it's black and white, you're either talking or not talking, imposing the structure of just being a silent teddy bear can be helpful for dealing with the temptation to talk at times when your better self would have you hold back.		Instead of relying on willpower to try to do more listening, Teddy Bear Talk Support can help with replacing discipline with structure. Because it's black and white, you're either talking or not talking, imposing the structure of just being a silent teddy bear can be helpful for dealing with the temptation to talk at times when your better self would have you hold back.

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Lfu: /* The magic that the teddy bear can experience */

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The magic that the teddy bear can experience

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	[[More_about_Teddy_Bear_Talk_Support#Windows_into_Talkers.27_Worlds_and_into_Teddy_Bears.27_Own_Worlds\|Click here]] for some other gifts that teddy bears can get from "engaging minimally."		[[More_about_Teddy_Bear_Talk_Support#Windows_into_Talkers.27_Worlds_and_into_Teddy_Bears.27_Own_Worlds\|Click here]] for some other gifts that teddy bears can get from "engaging minimally."

			==Why restricting yourself to be just a silent teddy bear might be easier==
			:Genuine listening requires that you willingly bear witness to what someone else needs to say while simultaneously sparing them of your own solution, defense, dismissal, alternative reality, rebuttal, counterpoint, comparable story or more extreme example.

			:This kind of listening is a very ‘active’ part to play in a conversation. You have to believe for those moments that none of the things you might say could possibly be as valuable as hearing someone out.

			:You may need to employ every ounce of your strength of character to actually pay attention and not butt-in with your own bit. That kind of attention paid to another is powerful medicine.

			:-Gil Hedley, Integral Anatomy

			Many people will start off having every intention of doing more listening only to find themselves talking a lot, despite not wanting to. What can help is to take willpower and social dynamics out of the picture. Instead of relying on discipline to try to do more listening in ordinary circumstances, with Teddy Bear Talk Support we're changing the circumstances by replacing discipline with structure. Because it's black and white, you're either talking or not talking, imposing the structure of just being a silent teddy bear can be helpful for dealing with the temptation to talk at times when your better self would have you hold back.

	== Same page enough ==		== Same page enough ==

Lfu at 16:13, 17 September 2023

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			FALL ONLINE WORKSHOPS: Four separate 3-week workshops are being offered via Zoom.
			*One is for everyone and will be held on Sunday, November 26, December 3, 10 from 8 to 9:00 p.m. Eastern
			*The other three are for parents: • Monday, October 16, 23, 30 • 7 to 8:00 p.m. Eastern • Sunday, November 5, 12, 19 • 4 to 5:00 p.m. Eastern • Wednesday, November 29, December 6, 13 • 8 to 9:00 p.m. Eastern •
			*[[Workshops\|Click here]] to learn more.
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	Teddy Bear Talk Support (TBTS) is about getting to think better by thinking out loud. It's about creating opportunities for having a listener along for the ride who isn't "doing" much, while a talker talks out loud. The beauty of Teddy Bear Talk Support is that it's simple. It may not sound like much, but its effects can be profound and powerful. How can you grab just about anyone and get to have them be of help to you? TBTS offers some answers.		Teddy Bear Talk Support (TBTS) is about getting to think better by thinking out loud. It's about creating opportunities for having a listener along for the ride who isn't "doing" much, while a talker talks out loud. The beauty of Teddy Bear Talk Support is that it's simple. It may not sound like much, but its effects can be profound and powerful. How can you grab just about anyone and get to have them be of help to you? TBTS offers some answers.

Lfu at 14:36, 9 September 2023

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	:2 - 3 people have decided to start their day by taking turns doing Teddy Bear Talk Support with each other over Zoom. They will use a timer to give each person 7 minutes for their turn as the talker. They agree that teddy bears can offer questions in writing at any time by using the chat. It is understood that the talker can feel free to not answer the questions by simply continuing to talk, and the talker is encouraged to do what feels best for them in the moment. Since the chat can be easily saved, the questions can be saved to be thought about later.		:2 - 3 people have decided to start their day by taking turns doing Teddy Bear Talk Support with each other over Zoom. They will use a timer to give each person 7 minutes for their turn as the talker. They agree that teddy bears can offer questions in writing at any time by using the chat. It is understood that the talker can feel free to not answer the questions by simply continuing to talk, and the talker is encouraged to do what feels best for them in the moment. Since the chat can be easily saved, the questions can be saved to be thought about later.

			Co-working

			:2 people intersperse working on their own separate tasks (that usually have nothing to do with what the other person is working on) with taking turns doing Teddy Bear Talk Support. The work sessions might be 15 minutes or 20 minutes long. Each person gets 3 minutes as the talker, so you spend about 6 minutes during the Teddy Bear Talk Support sessions. The total length of the co-working time together might be 60 minutes or 100 minutes long.

	"Teddy bears" can be real live people that someone talks to in real time. Or, a talker can have interactions with teddy bears by talking to real or imagined people by writing to them, or by talking to recording devices.		"Teddy bears" can be real live people that someone talks to in real time. Or, a talker can have interactions with teddy bears by talking to real or imagined people by writing to them, or by talking to recording devices.

Lfu at 22:11, 30 August 2023

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	After learning of the teddy bear story, I started thinking about how humans could serve as teddy bears. These '''human teddy bears''' would be operating in what I called '''"teddy bear mode," where they were only listening, or where they could also do a few other limited things''', like ask open, honest questions, or make guesses about what seemed important.		After learning of the teddy bear story, I started thinking about how humans could serve as teddy bears. These '''human teddy bears''' would be operating in what I called '''"teddy bear mode," where they were only listening, or where they could also do a few other limited things''', like ask open, honest questions, or make guesses about what seemed important.

	Of course, the talker can talk to a teddy bear about something the teddy bear is knowledgeable about. But, as we saw with the tech support help desk story, because teddy bears aren't asked to do much, they can also help with things they don't know about. So, talkers can ''even'' talk to a teddy bear about:		What might a talker talk to a human teddy bear about? Of course, the talker can talk to a teddy bear about something the teddy bear is knowledgeable about. But, as we saw with the tech support help desk story, because teddy bears aren't asked to do much, they can also help with things they don't know about. So, talkers can ''even'' talk to a teddy bear about:
	*something the talker knows a lot about, but the teddy bear doesn't		*something the talker knows a lot about, but the teddy bear doesn't
	*something the talker is not the expert in, and the talker is ''pretending'' the teddy bear is wiser about		*something the talker is not the expert in, and the talker is ''pretending'' the teddy bear is wiser about

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2022-08-07T18:05:22Z

Why limited? Why have constraints?

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	Another way to make more room for the power of listening is a process called the Clearness Committee. It’s a process that involves multiple teddy bears supporting one focus person where the teddy bears can only respond to what the focus person is saying by asking questions.		Another way to make more room for the power of listening is a process called the Clearness Committee. It’s a process that involves multiple teddy bears supporting one focus person where the teddy bears can only respond to what the focus person is saying by asking questions.

	The following excerpts from [~~http~~://~~www.~~couragerenewal.org/~~clearnesscommittee~~/ Parker Palmer’s description of the Clearness Committee] give a sense for what this teddy bear setup is about:		The following excerpts from [https://couragerenewal.org/library/the-clearness-committee-a-communal-approach-to-discernment/ Parker Palmer’s description of the Clearness Committee] give a sense for what this teddy bear setup is about:
	:Many of us face a dilemma when trying to deal with a personal problem, question, or decision. On the one hand, we know that the issue is ours alone to resolve and that we have the inner resources to resolve it, but access to our own resources is often blocked by layers of inner "stuff"—confusion, habitual thinking, fear, despair. On the other hand, we know that friends might help us uncover our inner resources and find our way, but by exposing our problem to others, we run the risk of being invaded and overwhelmed by their assumptions, judgments, and advice—a common and alienating experience.		:Many of us face a dilemma when trying to deal with a personal problem, question, or decision. On the one hand, we know that the issue is ours alone to resolve and that we have the inner resources to resolve it, but access to our own resources is often blocked by layers of inner "stuff"—confusion, habitual thinking, fear, despair. On the other hand, we know that friends might help us uncover our inner resources and find our way, but by exposing our problem to others, we run the risk of being invaded and overwhelmed by their assumptions, judgments, and advice—a common and alienating experience.